Book Club Discussion Questions
Use these questions in your book club to enrich your discussions
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First Impressions
- What was your first reaction to Dare to Love?
- Which scene stayed with you the longest after you finished the book?
- Was there a moment that surprised you?
Love
- What do you think made Patrick and Jane's relationship so special?
- How did knowing Patrick had stage four cancer change the way you experienced their love story?
- What did the book teach you about love that you hadn't thought about before?
Lovability
- Did you understand Jane’s reluctance to tell Patrick her age?
- If you were in her position, how would you have navigated the thirteen-year age difference?
- Do you have something that would be hard to tell someone you’re interested in?
Courage and Risk
- Would you have gone on a second date knowing what Jane learned on the first date?
- When has fear kept you from saying yes to life?
- Have you ever taken a leap of faith because something simply felt right?
Childhood
- When Jane talked about her childhood, what came to mind about your own childhood experiences?
- Jane lost her dad at a young age. Did you face any losses, dysfunction, or challenges in your early years?
- What positives—fun, feeling loved and belonging—come to mind when you think of your childhood?
Loss and Grief
- What parts of Patrick's illness affected you most deeply?
- Did the book change the way you think about grief?
- Did you learn something useful about what helps people continue living after a devastating loss?
Living Fully
- Patrick and Jane chose to keep living rather than waiting for "someday." What does living fully mean to you?
- Do you have adventures or things that need said that you have been postponing?
- Did the book inspire you to make any changes in your own life?
Relationship Norms
- Jane and Patrick were married but not living in the same house. Do you feel constrained by societal norms about what a marriage should look like?
- Patrick and Jane shared their relationship expenses equally. What would be the ideal financial dynamic for you in a partnership?
- Did the book inspire you to think outside the box for making a relationship work? If so, how?
Relationships
- What qualities do you look for, which ones do you have, and which ones are you developing to be a good partner?
- How do couples repair hurts and misunderstandings
- Which relationship lesson in the book resonated most with you?
Personal Reflection
- Which part of Jane's journey felt most like your own?
- Which part felt completely different from your experience?
- What was the strongest emotion you felt while reading?
Looking Forward
- If you could ask Jane one question, what would it be?
- What message from the book will stay with you?
- Who would you recommend this book to, and why?
Bringing the Book into Your Own Life
- Have you ever met someone who changed your life unexpectedly?
- What risk are you glad you took?
- Is there someone you need to say "I love you" to?
- What would "daring to love" look like in your life today?
- If you knew your time was limited, what would you do differently?
